Jonna from Sweden is here right now as a working student. I am very glad Jonna found us so we can work together to start Spirit and Elena in trail riding and continue the training of Jack and Darling. Jonna has a very good way of being with horses, calm, connected and she is a very good rider. It is a pleasure to work with her and I look forward to the coming months and to share our continuous journey with you.
The journey to the ride of our dreams!
Much sunshine from St. Vincent
Finding the connection
More than one month has past and I have experienced so many precious moments that I’ll keep for life! However, this new role I’m practicing with horses is not only a walk in the park, it’s also very challenging because Im right in the middle of a big learning process. Re-learning.
Its essential to be open minded to be able to develop yourself and learn new things, but I’ve also learned that I have to trust myself and the experiences I’ve got and use them with this new way of being with horses to be more confident. Stina talks alot about balance in many different ways; you can’t be hard if you’re not soft, the balance between asking and demanding, between what’s ok for you and what’s not regarding personal space etc. So this is pretty much where I’m at now, trying to find the balance in the relationship with the horses. I’m doing better and better but I tend to be more kind than clear.
One example is with the scratching- bum- activity. I’ve found out that many of the horses really love to be scratched in their tail and bum. So I found this activity a great oppurtunity for me to improve our relationship and I was also really happy to understand what the horse meant when she passed me and showed me her bum after saying hello with a sniff- I was communicating with the horse! But then I lost the balance since the horses started to show me their bum as soon as they saw me… When I was going to put the halter on, train them, or even just talk to them. Ok, I’m exaggerating a little but it become a problem for me so I talked to Stina about it and we talked about balance. That I should be more aware and consciously choose when to scratch. And we also talked about connection, how you can improve the connection with the horse by just being present. You can of course do fun stuff with them but you also don’t have to do anything special except for just that, being present.
In this big process of learning to find the right balance, my biggest challange is to learn to be more clear and confident- to be a good leader. This way of being with horses really reveals your whole personality, all the good and bad sides! I totally understand now what Stina said to me in the beginning: “theese horses are your best teachers”. By pictures and movies of me with the horses made by Stina I’ve come to realization that I have a long way to go with communcating with horses. But I also see that I’ve improved since I came here. Sometimes I’m way to kind, and sometimes I want too much from them. But they will respond to me straight away with their behaviour what I did “right” and “wrong”. Frustrating but very useful!
In between theese challanges I’ve had glorious moments in the saddle at sunset in the fruitgarden, watching them run and jump by joy in their pastures, watching them eat under a sky full of stars and fireflies and my number one so far; taking them to the sea for a roll in the river and walk on the beach.
I still can’t belive I’m actually here, living my dream!
Take care and talk soon!